The first few months were fun and refreshing. It was nice to finally be able to do life together day in and day out and not have to worry about anything. We didn’t have to drive back home at the end of the night or anything like that! It was just refreshing to be able to spend so much time with your best friend despite what people may think or say!
Also, it’s nice to have someone you can rely on no matter the time of day or circumstance and also it’s encouraging to be married to someone so considerate and kind to me no matter our differences!
So many people tell you how marriage was for them and how it works best, but honestly everyone’s experience is so different yet they talk as if that’s how it should be no matter what. But what may work for one couple does not work for the other. It was nice to be able to build our home and how we operated exactly how WE wanted it and how it worked best for US.
We took other people’s ideas or thoughts and tried them- some we kept, some we threw out. Only the two of you know how much rest, how much alone time, how much socialization is needed, who is more organized, who enjoys doing finances, who likes to cook, what activities you enjoy doing, who wants to drive, and the list goes on. Every marriage is going to be different. And that’s OK as long as they’re doing right and loving and honoring God through their relationship!
Marriage is relaxing and fun. Marrying my childhood sweetheart was just so cool, because not a lot changed after we got married. We are still the best of friends just doing life together daily, talking about what we are learning, growing in our talents and abilities, encouraging one another, and strengthening each other through our relationship.
I love vacationing with my husband because we get to choose how much time we spend resting, what we want to eat, what we want to splurge on, or where we want to go. Growing up as a kid, you always do vacation how your parents want to. But honestly, that was one of the best parts about getting married- doing vacation how YOU and YOUR HUSBAND like it best. Haha, sounds so lame.. but really that was lots of fun.
We do a lot of laughing which is always a blast, and I love that we have the same passions for working with children, learning/teaching music, investing in people, being active in church work and so on and so forth. That’s just really cool to have so much in common and be able to come together as a strong force to make it all happen.
The good stuff in marriage is—
Hmm.. there’s lots of good stuff! I honestly just really love doing everyday life with my best friend. At the end of the day, we get to come back from work, talk about all the events that happened throughout the day, laugh a lot, make yummy food together, and just enjoy the rest of the evening relaxing together. Honestly, that’s what makes it so amazing. Nothing mushy or super romanticy (haha that’s not a word, but oh well..) just enjoying one another!
Also, what makes it fun is that we’re different. We have the same values and same beliefs and what not, but our personalities and abilities are different. And that’s what makes it fun. Learning to live with someone different than you, but someone who truly loves you despite your differences.
Together, I feel stronger because we compliment one another. His strengths are often my weaknesses and my strengths are often his weaknesses. In other words, our marriage makes us both stronger when we work together as one!
I want girlS to know that—
Love is a choice- a daily choice. It won’t always be easy, and you’ll find out frustrating things about one another, but it’s learning to accept it, to then choose to grow in whatever area you need to, and to not be afraid to be honest or real about your feelings. You gotta be open about your heart, or you’ll really hurt your husband by hiding in your little shell.
Marriage is a commitment, a serious one. And if you want to protect your relationship and truly love your husband, then you need to be willing to be open and honest, but also kind and considerate of one another. Real love is truly amazing and really does bring you closer to Christ.